Fatherhood and Smoking Cigars
If you're a cigar-smoking Mom or Dad, I want to hear from you.
Like any good father, I want what's best for my kids. With my oldest still under 4, they're still pretty far removed from chats about sex, drugs, and rock 'n roll. But sooner or later, they're going to start asking material questions about cigars and why I smoke them. The issues surrounding cigars and fatherhood are complex, and they're going to receive a lot of information from a lot of different sources about cigars and tobacco products in general.
My oldest already knows what cigars are. He saw a cigar in the ashtray and asked me what it was, and I answered him frankly. I'm not about to insult his intelligence by pretending not to hear his question, or by spouting off some falsehood.
I guess the bottom line is this: I'm not interested in indoctrinating him in any way, but neither am I about to hide my cabinet humidor.
I DO consciously abstain from smoking in their presence. While I'm not ashamed of cigars, smoking is not a behavior I wish to normalize in their worldview. Besides, with few exceptions, actually enjoying one when they're about is near-impossible.
Do I look forward to sharing a cigar with my kids someday? Sure, when they're 18 and old enough to know the difference between occasionally enjoying a fine cigar and chain-smoking cigarettes. I plan to teach them about enjoying cigars responsibly, and make sure they're aware of the health risks associated with tobacco. I believe that adults have the right to make an informed decision about tobacco use, and when it comes to cigars and fatherhood, I plan to help inform my children so they can make their own choice when the time comes.
How do/did you handle the smoking question vis-à-vis cigars? Are there any tips on cigars and fatherhood that you can give to a relative rookie Dad? Thanks in advance.
When he's not busy writing, editing, smoking cigars, or raising his many, many children, Hayward " "It's Lou, not Hayward" " Tenney spends his days combating confusion about his real name (it's Hayward, but please - call him " "Lou" ") and mourning the matrimonially-induced loss of his moustache (what's he gonna do with all that moustache wax he made?).Show all Lou Tenney's Articles